Dating a goth girl
Of course, at a fetish night or in the bedroom, these clothes may mean something different, but that's a whole other story and not one I particularly intend to cover in a blog post.
Basically, just because someone is wearing a spiky collar and skintight PVC to a Goth club does not mean she's into S&M.
I'm going to cover some of my least favourite rumours about Goths and dating; some tips for those of you who would like to know how to go about wooing a Goth (what a great word, 'woo'...), and a few helpful links and videos (I'm THAT good to you).
Spooky gifts: A gothic necklace (NOT Halloween jewellery, it can be tacky and is likely to fall apart) A heart-shaped box filled with Halloween sweets A bunch of deep red roses A book of dark poetry A mix CD of dark/Goth music A handmade bracelet ..your imagination. Double points if it doubles as an art gallery or bookstore.
(Cliffs below.) Okay, this is not my real account, I'm smurfing for a reason. Cliffs: - meeting a goth for drinks - don't know how to dress. I'm married, but going through a slow drawn out separation. She's kind and considerate and works a number of small jobs while she tries to find out what she wants to do with her life. I start tracing her collar bone, nibbling on her neck, fingering down her cleavage to her nipples. But it's 2, and during a smoke break she says she should probably get home. And I pull down her corset top, and pull up her dress (not tough, cause it already has a slit running to her hip), pull off her panties, and rub her out (takes about 30 minutes for her, she's fcuking killing my eardrums with her screaming).
Because of the links between Goth and the 'vampyre' subculture/lifestyle (more coming soon on this), it is often assumed that Goths indulge in blood play (cutting each other or drinking each other's blood during sex). Blood-drinking = not your best idea.) Because of Goth's open-mindedness (yes, that again), there is a general consensus that 'what takes place between consenting adults stays between said adults', but since most Goths (and most vampyres, come to that...) a) do not believe they are vampires, b) do not have any particular affinity for blood (I have a tendency to faint if someone gets a nosebleed in my general vicinity), and c) do not like the idea of or take part in cutting themselves or other people, I would draw the conclusion that this is very unlikely in 99% of cases. Lately, I have also seen many articles on Wiki How with titles such as "How to get a Goth guy to like you (even if you're not Gothic)" and "How to win the heart of a Goth girl". ) that many of these are written tongue-in-cheek or from personal experience, making them about an even mix of amusing and sweet.
However, I would like to point out that 'winning the heart' of your 'dark love' is really not all that different than wooing a 'normal' girl or guy.A big bouquet and a box of chocolates is still an acceptable gift (although the flowers don't necessarily have to be alive).